Honor the Hard Days

Dear One,

When you experience loss, your ability to handle the ebb and flow of your emotions is critical for your well-being.  For those of you who went through the magnitude of a natural disaster, it’s huge. I mean it, it’s huge.

Know – you will have good days when you seemingly have it together and you can handle life and all its demands in the outside world.

Know – you will have really hard days. You can’t or could not sleep. You feel depressed. Your head is hurting, often from too much thinking at night. You wake up and all you want to do is cry. You will find all sorts of ways to hold it in, until the waterline will break.

Know – even 2 years after my Wildfire event, I go through the motions. Unexpected. It hits me by surprise. I see something or hear something that reminds me of something I forgot.

No matter how much I resist, the emotions (at least in me) always win. So, dear one, find a place, your car, a bathroom, your home, some place in nature where you can ‘let it go’. Let is all out. Cry, scream, stomp, get angry.

I hit the wall today. 2 weeks after the tragic Clearlake, Napa, Sonoma, Santa Rosa Fires, I could not stop bawling. I did not understand. Indeed sometimes we don’t even need to know where it’s all coming from. Is it mine or is it the collective?

The Gift: 

We are all so connected. In times of crisis and change it is of utmost importance to be present to what shows up in and through our bodies. Sometimes you might be the angel that releases her own and everybody else’s sadness and grief. Bless that! Honor that!

sending my deepest appreciation for your journey, Joya

© Text by Joya P Gallasch/The Gifts of Change


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